Doing the Work in Order to Work

We know all too well how the trauma of sexual assault or abuse can ripple through every part of life, including the workplace. Many of us have struggled with anxiety, self-doubt, and the feeling that we’re carrying an invisible burden no one else can see. But we also know that we are not alone. Together, we are learning not just to survive, but to thrive and to reclaim our place in the world, including at work.

How Trauma Shows Up at Work

For many of us, returning to work after trauma has been one of the hardest steps. Some days, it’s a struggle just to get out of bed, let alone face coworkers or deadlines. We’ve felt the weight of depression, the fog of anxiety, and the sting of triggers that can pop up unexpectedly. A certain tone of voice, a closed office door, or even a simple touch on the shoulder can send us into a tailspin.

We’ve seen how trauma can make it hard to concentrate, zap our motivation, and shake our confidence. Some of us have had to take time off or even leave jobs that felt unsafe. Others have felt isolated, worried that no one would understand what we’re going through.

Why We Keep Showing Up

Despite all of this, we keep coming back to our jobs.. We’ve learned that work can be more than just a paycheck. For us, it’s a chance to rebuild our sense of self, to set goals, and to feel proud of what we accomplish. As survivors, it’s important that we acknowledge and celebrate every small victory, whether it’s making it through a tough meeting or simply getting through the day.

We know that healing is not a straight line. Some days are harder than others. But by supporting each other, we’re proving that it’s possible to move forward, even after the darkest moments. Work gives us routine, purpose, and the chance to connect with others. Although difficult, connection and continuing to stand ourselves up are vital for successful survivorship.

“We’re building a future where we can all feel safe, valued, and empowered at work.”

Our Top 5 Steps for Healing and Reintegration

Here are the steps we’ve found most helpful as we navigate work and healing together:

1. Seek Professional Support
Many of us have found strength in therapy or counseling. Having a safe space to process our experiences has been life-changing. Understanding that cost may make counseling prohibitive, local resources like hospitals, police or community organizations may connect you with cost-friendly, if not free, resources.

2. Lean on Community
Our respective communities are our anchors. Sharing our stories and listening to others reminds us that we’re not alone. Whether it’s a text on a hard day or a hug after a tough week, support makes all the difference.

3. Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Care
We remind each other that it’s okay to say, “No”, to take breaks, and to put our well-being first. Healthy boundaries at work help us feel safe and respected. Difficulties communicating or enforcing boundaries may arise. Just remember, it’s okay to take your time establishing them and it’s okay to ask for help.

4. Practice Mindfulness
Simple practices like deep breathing, journaling, or meditation help us stay grounded and manage stress, especially during difficult moments at work. Take the time during the work day to refocus and process.

5. Advocate for Ourselves
We encourage each other to speak up for what we need. Whether it’s flexible hours, a supportive manager, or time off for therapy, our voices matter.

Moving Forward, Together

If you’re reading this, know that you’re not alone. We’re surviving together, one step at a time. By supporting each other and taking these steps, we’re doing more than just getting by. We’re building a future where we can all feel safe, valued, and empowered at work. And that’s something worth fighting for, together.

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