To Report Sexual Violence or Not Report
Surviving sexual violence can leave us feeling overwhelmed, afraid, numb, angry, or unsure of what to do next. Every victimized person responds differently, and there is no “correct” way to feel after trauma. For many of us, even thinking about reporting the crime to the police can bring anxiety, fear of judgment, or concern that we won’t be believed. Those feelings are valid, for many reasons.
For anyone thinking about reporting, it’s important to remember that the decision is yours. You deserve support, safety, and respect throughout the process. If possible, reach out to someone you trust before making a report. This could be a friend or family member who may be able to go with you to the police station to help you feel less alone.
When reporting to police, try to provide as much detail as you can remember, including the time, location, and any information about the offender(s). It is okay if you cannot remember everything immediately; trauma can affect memory. Prior to staring the investigation, police may offer for an advocate or support person to be present during interviews.
For police to initiate an investigation, there has to be credible evidence that a crime took place. In addition to an official statement, evidence exists in many other forms, so it’s important to preserve any and all material related to the assault to help the police make a decision. This may include saving text messages, photographs, clothing, or other items connected to the violation:
Avoid deleting communications; police will need to confirm location(s), who you engaged and topics of conversation to aid in interviews of potential witnesses and the assailant(s)
Avoid washing clothing; preserve items worn during the violation and after in paper bags so that the possibility of contamination is limited
Avoid taking a shower/bath; many hospital emergency rooms will offer a forensic [body] exam performed by trained professionals to capture bodily fluids and any damage to the body. (NOTE: The sooner you can get to an emergency room to have evidence collected the better. There is a 72-hour window to receive prophylactic medications to help prevent STIs/HIV, infections, and pregnancy.)
Most importantly, reporting does not define whether or not you’re telling the truth. Some survivors report immediately, some wait, and some decide not to report at all. The reasons for reporting are different for everyone. What matters most is knowing that what was done to you was not your fault, and you deserve care, dignity, and support as you move forward.